23 years ago January 16, 1988.
I
made my wedding dress. I had an old Gambles sewing machine, it must have weighed 30 pounds. All metal and pink! It had a straight stitch and a zig zag and the bobbin winder was broken. So while I laid out yards of fabric for the train down the long apartment hall way, my husband to be invented a bobbin winder. He used a
tortillon (a paper blender artists use when drawing, cone shaped)
and his electric razor and zip....he wound me several bobbins.
I was NOT a
bridezilla, and I am thankful for that.
I let him pick the wedding color, much to my later regret. His mom was in charge of flowers, I turned over the entire reception to my wonderful aunts and everything fell into place. Today......I can't imagine me, a control freak, not being in every detail. ok...one exception. We trusted the pastor to pick our singer......
well let's say that was not wise. When she started to sing in her very soprano, vibrato voice our ring barer was caught on the video turning to look at his mom with eyes the size of saucers and his mouth wide open! I have to say that is exactly how we felt. Bless her heart.
We were married in a church but were
not church attenders. Years later, after being saved by grace, I listened again to our ceremony and realized the pastor talked of love
agape- divine, self sacrificing, God given and God driven
phileo- friendship, affection
eros- erotic, sex
Marriage must have all 3.
Eros generally comes easy at first and must
never be forgotten.
Phileo must grow in trust, forgiveness, enjoyment of being together. Just like regular friendships, it requires work.
Agape- if it weren't for God we would not be together. This is the love that comes from him and for many years we were a couple when we should have been a cord of three. At times things were really rough, we both came from backgrounds heavy in
baggage.
With God.... times can still be tough, but baggage can be laid down, hurts can be healed, forgiveness is possible, passion can be renewed and strength for the day is plentiful.
One word of marital advice.......don't change your partner, you can't. Change yourself.
With God all things are possible.
Even getting over blue satin. ( I would have picked mauve)
blessings and thanks for visiting